12 Phrases for Introductions at a Networking Event When You Know No One

You walk into the room. 80 people. You know no one. You're standing at the bar, drinking mineral water, and thinking about how to leave without looking like a fool. Familiar.

According to the National Social Anxiety Center, 40% of adults describe the situation of 'entering a room of strangers' as one of the biggest fears in everyday life — stronger than public speaking. The problem isn't the people around you. The problem is that you don't have a ready first phrase, and your brain frantically sorts through options in panic.

Here are 12 opening phrases that work because they are specific, friendly, and don't require small talk about the weather from the interlocutor.

Phrases for Joining a Ready Group of 2–3 People

1. "Excuse me, can I join you? I'm here for the first time and don't know anyone"

The most honest phrase in the world. It removes all questions like 'why did you approach us' and evokes empathy. 9 out of 10 groups open up physically and let in the new person. That one that doesn't — you don't need it anyway.

2. "I don't want to interrupt — what are you talking about?"

It works because you're not pushing the group to change the topic. You're just joining what's already going on. After the response, you can add: "Oh, I had a similar story…" or simply "Can I listen?"

3. "Are you by any chance {name from the list of speakers}?"

Half-test, half-compliment. If yes — great, you have a ready topic. If no — the person will smile and introduce themselves. It works even if you miss: "You look a lot like the speaker from the second hall".

Phrases for Lone People by the Wall

4. "It looks like you're also waiting for the main program to start"

Solidarity. You're letting the interlocutor know that you're also not entirely comfortable, and that's normal.

5. "What's the strangest event you've ever been to?"

An unconventional question breaks the 'what do you do' template. People open up because they're interested in answering.

6. "How did you find out about this event?"

Perfect for events with a strong community: the answer 'from friend X' immediately gives a common hook.

Phrases at the Buffet

7. "Can you tell me what this thing is here?" (pointing to a dish)

The lowest entry threshold. After the response, you can continue: "Have you tried it yourself? How is it?"

8. "I'm running on caffeine today, how has your day been?"

It shows that you're a living person, not an elevator pitch machine.

Phrases at the Registration Desk / Badges

9. "Excuse me, are you Ilya? We corresponded in the event's Telegram chat"

A pretended mistake is a great icebreaker. In 80% of cases, they'll correct you with a smile, and you'll start a conversation.

10. "What's your plan for the event — more mingling or more talks?"

It immediately divides people into two categories and lets you know whether to build a deep conversation or stick to a business card.

Phrases at the Coffee Break

11. "I'm trying not to miss talk X, but I can't find the second hall. Are you heading that way too?"

The key is the reason: you get a pretext to go somewhere together, not just stand there.

12. "I'm here for work and also checking out where everyone is heading. What field are you in?"

Straightforward, but it works because on networking events, this directness is expected. It doesn't work at parties, but it does here.

What NOT to Say

• "What do you do?" — too common, automatic response on autopilot
• "Why are you here?" — sounds like an interrogation
• "Nice event, right?" — empty small talk leading to a dead end
• "This is my first time" (as the only phrase) — good as an addition, but as a starter, it sounds helpless

The Main Rule

Any of the 12 phrases works only under one condition: you look the person in the eyes and speak calmly. The most perfect script won't save you if you avert your gaze or chatter nervously. Practice not the words — the intonation and calmness.

And remember: people at networking events came to meet others. You're doing them a favor by approaching first.